Should I Tell My SO
Should I tell my wife, girlfriend and SO about my PMO? The intention here is that it would help you in quitting. I am of the solid opinion that all these are not needed. It would only reinforce your weakness against PMO.
If you slip, you will feel miserable and guilty if you are following the Willpower Method. Add to that the feeling of deceiving your loved one will definitely push you through the vicious cycle of slip-lapse-relapse.
If you are caught once - just say you are feeling good that you got caught and you are out of the prison. And you don’t want to talk about it. Many women can’t digest it. Many men wrongly attribute the woman to be of loose morals and hence a bad person. And if the SO breaks up with you (even if for some other reason) you will feel guilty for having screwed up your sex life with PMO OR feeling you “sacrificed” so much if you were successful in quitting - adding to the heart ache.
You will look very weak. They will treat you as a weak person - of course only subconsciously. But you can smell it. Why the stress?
If no one knows about it, then let this thing get buried. No one needs to know.