03-40 The Final Visit

The Final Visit

Having decided on your timing, you are now ready to visit your harem one last time. Before you do so, check on the two essentials:

1. Do you feel certain of success?
2. Have you a feeling of doom and gloom or a sense of excitement that you are about to achieve something marvelous?

If you have any doubts, re-read the book first. Remember that you never decided to fall into the porn trap. But that trap is designed to enslave you for life. In order to escape you need to make the positive decision that you are about to stop and make your final visit.

Remember, the only reason that you have read this book so far is because you would dearly love to escape. So make that positive decision now. Make a solemn vow that when you close your incognito browser window, whether you find it easy or difficult, you will never visit your harem again or engage in PMO. Perhaps you are worried that you have made this vow several times in the past but are still failing or that you will have to go through some awful trauma. Have no fear, the worse thing that can possibly happen is that you fail and so you have absolutely nothing to lose and so much to gain.

But stop even thinking about failure. The beautiful truth is that it is not only ridiculously easy to quit but you can actually enjoy the process. This time you are going to use EASYWAY! All you need to do is to follow the simple instructions that I’m about to give you:

1. Make the solemn vow now and mean it.
2. Browse the pictures and clips on your favorite tube site consciously, look at the desperate attempts by the site admins, actors and even amateurs at amplifying the shock, novelty, supra stimulation values of their wares and ask yourself where the pleasure is.
3. When you finally close the browser, do so not with a feeling of: “I must never visit another online harem again” or “I’m not allowed to visit another,” but instead with the feeling of:

“Isn’t it great! I’m free! I’m no longer a slave to porn! I don’t ever have to visit these filthy sites in my life again.”¹

4. Be aware that for a few days, there will be a little porn saboteur inside your stomach. You might only know the feeling, “I want to PMO.” At times I refer to that little porn monster as the slight physical craving for dopamine. Strictly this is incorrect and it is important that you understand why. Because it takes about three weeks for that little monster to die, ex-PMOers believe that the little monster will continue to crave after the final online harem visit and that they must therefore use willpower to resist the temptation during this period. This is not so. The body doesn’t crave porn triggered dopamine. Only the brain craves dopamine.

If you do get that feeling of “I want a peek” over the next few days, your brain has a simple choice. It can either interpret that feeling for what it actually is - an empty insecure feeling started by the first visit to an online porn site and perpetuated by every subsequent one, and say to yourself: YIPPEE I’M A NON-PMOer!¹

Or you can start craving for porn and suffer it for the rest of your life. Just think for a moment. Wouldn’t that be an incredibly stupid thing to do? To say, “I never want to PMO again,” then spend the rest of your life saying, “I’d love a visit.” That’s what PMOers who use the Willpower Method do. No wonder they feel so miserable. They spend the rest of their lives desperately moping for something that they desperately hope they will never have. No wonder so few of them succeed and the few that do never feel completely free.

It is only the doubting and the waiting that make it difficult to quit. So never doubt your decision, you know it’s the correct decision. If you begin to doubt it, you will put yourself into a no-win situation. You will be miserable if you crave a PMO visit but can’t have one. You will be even more miserable if you do have one. No matter what system you are using, what is it that you are trying to achieve when you quit, PMOing? Never to PMO again? No! Many ex-PMOers do that but go through the rest of their lives feeling deprived.

What is the real difference between PMOers and non-PMOers? Non-PMOers have no need or desire to PMO, they do not crave porn and PMO and do not need to exercise willpower in order not to PMO. That’s what you are trying to achieve, and it is completely within your power to achieve it. You don’t have to wait to stop craving porn or to become a non-PMOer. You do it the moment you close that final browser session, you have cut off the supply of dopamine: YOU ARE ALREADY A HAPPY NON-PMOer!

And you will remain a happy non-PMOer provided:

1. You never doubt your decision.
2. You don’t wait to become a non-PMOer. If you do, you will merely be waiting for nothing to happen, which will create a phobia.
3. You don’t try not to think about PMOing or wait for the “moment of revelation” to come. Either way you will merely create a phobia.
4. You don’t use substitutes.
5. You see all other PMOers as they really are and pity them rather than envy them.

Whether they be good days or bad days, you don’t change your life just because you’ve quit PMO. If you do you will be making a genuine sacrifice and there is no need to. Remember, you haven’t given up living. You haven’t given up anything.

On the contrary, you’ve cured yourself from an awful disease and escaped from an insidious prison. As the days go by and your health, both physical and mental improves, the highs will appear higher and the lows less low than when you were a PMOer. Whenever you think about PMOing either during the next few days or the rest of your life, you think: YIPPEE. I’M A NON-PMOer!