The Moment of Revelation
The moment of revelation usually takes place about three weeks after stopping. The sky appears to become brighter and it is the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you do not need to PMO, you suddenly realize that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing PMO again. It is also usually from this point that you start looking at other PMOers as objects of pity.
PMOers using the Willpower Method do not normally experience this moment because although they are glad to be ex-PMOers they continue through life believing they are making a sacrifice. The more you were addicted, the more marvellous this moment is and it lasts a lifetime. I consider I have been very fortunate in this life and had some wonderful moments but the most wonderful of all was that moment of revelation. With all the other highlights of my life, although I can remember they were happy times, I can never recapture the actual feeling. I can never get over the joy of not having to PMO any more. If ever I am feeling low and need a boost nowadays, I just think how lovely it is not to be hooked on that awful addiction. Half the people who contact me after they have stopped visiting the online harems say exactly the same thing: that it was the most marvellous event of their lives. Ah! What pleasure you have to come! With additional feedback, both from forums and personal interactions, I have learned that in most cases the moment of revelation occurs not after three weeks, as stated above, but within a few days.
In my own case it happened before I was finished on my last harem visit. I am sure many of the readers here, before they’d even got to the end of the chapters would say something like: “You needn’t say another word. I can see it all so clearly, I know I’ll never PMO again.” From the messages I receive I’m also aware that it frequently happens.
Ideally if you follow all the instructions and understand the psychology completely, it should happen to you immediately.
I say to PMOers that it takes about five days for the noticeable physical withdrawal to go and about three weeks for an ex-PMOer to get completely free. In one way I dislike giving such guidelines. It can cause two problems. The first is that I put in people’s minds the suggestion that they will have to suffer for between five days and three weeks. The second is that the ex-PMOer tends to think, “if I can survive for five days or three weeks, I can expect a real boost at the end of that period.”
However, he may have five pleasant days or three pleasant weeks then followed by one of those disastrous days that strike both non-PMOers and PMOers which have nothing to do with the addiction but are caused by other factors in our lives. Then our ex-PMOer is waiting for the moment of revelation but what he experiences is depression instead. It could destroy his confidence. If I don’t give any guidelines, however, the ex-PMOer can spend the rest of his life waiting for nothing to happen. I suspect that this is what happens to the vast majority of PMOers who stop when using the Willpower Method.
At one time I was tempted to say that the moment of revelation should happen immediately. But if I did that and it didn’t happen immediately, the ex-PMOer would lose confidence and think it was never going to happen.
People often ask me about the significance of the five days and three weeks. Are they just periods that I’ve drawn out of the blue? No. They are obviously not definite dates but they reflect an accumulation of feedback over the years. About five days after stopping is when the ex-PMOer ceases to have the addiction as the main occupation of his mind.
Most ex-PMOers experience the moment of revelation around this period. What usually happens is you are in one of those stressful or social situations that once you couldn’t cope with or enjoy without a harem visit. You suddenly realize that not only are you enjoying or coping with it but the thought of PMO has never even occurred to you. From that point on it is usually plain sailing. That’s when you know you are free.
I have noticed from my previous attempts using the Willpower Method and from feedback from others, that around the three-week period is when most serious attempts to stop fail. I believe that what usually happens is that after about three weeks you sense that you have lost the desire to PMO. You need to prove this to yourself and so you hop on your browser to visit your harem. It feels weird. You’ve proved you have kicked it. But you’ve also greased the DeltaFosB porn water slides thanks to the fresh dopamine rush into your brain and this dopamine rush is what your body has been craving for three weeks. As soon as you finish the deed the dopamine starts to leave your body. Now a little voice is saying, “You haven’t kicked it. You want another one.”
You don’t scurry back straight away because you don’t want to get hooked again. You allow a safe period to pass. When you are next tempted you are able to say to yourself: “But I didn’t get hooked again, so there’s no harm in having another one.” You are already on your way down the slippery slope. The key to the problem is not to wait for the moment of revelation but to realize that once you close the browser it is finished. You’ve already done all you need to do. You’ve cut off the supply of oxygen to your little monster. No force on earth can prevent you from being free unless you mope about it or wait for revelation. Go and enjoy life; cope with it right from the start. That way you’ll soon experience the moment.