Boredom
As soon as you get into your bed - and if you are like many people you are already on your favorite tube site - you will probably have already forgotten about it until I reminded you. It has become second nature. Another fallacy about PMOing is that it relieves boredom. Boredom is a frame of mind. The only time that happens is when you have been deprived for a long time or are trying to cut down, or during those first few PMO sessions after a failed attempt to stop.
The true situation is this: when you are addicted to internet porn’s supranormal novelty and then you decide to abstain from internet porn, there is something missing. If you have something to occupy your mind that isn’t stressful, you can go for long periods without being bothered by the absence of the drug. However, when you are bored there’s nothing to take your mind off it, so you feed the monster. When you are indulging yourself (i.e. not trying to stop or cut down), even firing up your incognito browser becomes subconscious. The PMOer can perform this ritual automatically. If any PMOer tries to remember the session during the last week, he can only remember a small proportion of them - e.g. the very last one or after a long abstinence.
The truth is that PMOing tend to increase boredom indirectly because orgasms make you feel lethargic and instead of undertaking some energetic activity, PMOers tend to prefer to lounge around, bored, relieving their withdrawal pangs. This is why countering the brainwashing is so important. Because it’s a fact that PMOers tend to masturbate when they are bored and that we’re wired to interpret PMO as interesting. It doesn’t occur to us to question the fact how a two dimensional supranormal stimulus relieves boredom.
We’ve also been brainwashed into believing that sex - even bad sex - aids relaxation. It is a fact that when under stress or sad, couples want to have sex. In the absence of discrimination between amative and propagative sex, the goal is set to achieve orgasms by hook or by crook. Next time you do this watch how you both want to get away from each other as soon as it’s over. It is obvious that if they had just decided to cuddle, speak, hug and touch each other and go to sleep without the mandatory orgasms, the couple would have felt relieved. Well, if in the process, they wanted to have the propagative part then by all means they can but that is a topic not meant to be discussed in this book.