03-37 Substitutes

Substitutes

Substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, going on a porn-diet¹ etc. DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will prolong the pang and make it harder. What you are really saying is, “I need to PMO to fill the void.” It will be like giving in to a hijacker or the tantrums of a child. It will just keep the pangs coming and prolong the torture. In any event the substitutes will not relieve the pangs. Your craving is for amino acids in the brain. All it will do is keep you thinking about PMOing. Remember these points:

1. There is no substitute for PMO.
2. You do not need porn or PMO. It is not food; it is poison. When the pangs come remind yourself that it is PMOers who suffer withdrawal pangs, not non-PMOers. See them as another evil of the drug. See them as the death of a monster.
3. Internet porn create the void; they do not fill it. The quicker you teach your brain that you do not need to PMO, or do anything else in its place, the sooner you will be free. In particular avoid anything that resembles porn, men’s magazines, movies, novels, commercials. Please don’t tell me that I am being closed minded. It is OK to talk romance and sex but not porn. If you look there will be a way to find when and where to discriminate. It is true that a small proportion of PMOers who attempt to quit using “soft porn” or a porn-diet do succeed (in their own self-analyses) and attribute their success to such use. However they quit in spite of their use and not because of it. It is unfortunate that many still recommend the porn-diet.

This is not surprising because if you don’t fully understand the porn trap, a diet or soft substitutes sound very logical. It is based on the belief that when you attempt to quit PMO, you have two powerful enemies to defeat:

1. To break the habit.
2. To survive the terrible physical withdrawal pains.

If you have two powerful enemies to defeat it is sensible not to fight them simultaneously but one at a time. So the theory is that you first stop using porn but continue to with it only nce every week or use safe porn. Then, once you have broken the habit, you gradually reduce the supply of porn, thus tackling each enemy separately.

It sounds logical but it is based on the wrong facts. PMOing is not habit but dopamine addiction and the actual physical pain from its withdrawal is almost imperceptible. What you are trying to achieve when you quit is to kill both the little porn monster in your body and the big monster inside your brain as quickly as possible.

All these substituting techniques do is to prolong the life of the “little monster” which in turn will prolong the life of the “big monster.” Remember EASYPEASYWAY makes it easy to quit immediately. You can kill the big monster (brainwashing) before your final PMO session. The little monster will soon be dead and even while it is dying, will be no more of a problem than it was when you were a PMOer. Just think, how can you possibly cure an addict of addiction to a drug by recommending the same drug? One eminent and highly respected writer actually stated in his book that porn is here to stay and so we have to make porn better. To his credit he is not offering that as an alternative to internet porn. However, your little monster may “use” his idea to keep you in its vicious trap. He only proved the point I am making that porn is not real and depends on supranormal stimuli. But I differ from him to say that making “good porn” and making it available will help. Addicts are not created by “theme” based porn - what we are talking is supranormal stimuli with high speed novelty.

I often read PMOers who have quit using internet hardcore porn but are hooked on “safe” porn. Others are hooked on the safe porn and are still PMOing. Do not be fooled by the fact that the safe porn is awful - so was that first high-speed clip. All substitutes have exactly the same effect as any porn. I’m now talking about this business of, “I can’t have a PMO, so I’ll have ordinary porn or static pictures or go on porn diet to help fill the void.” Some even start eating. Although the empty feeling of wanting a PMO is indistinguishable from hunger for food, one will not satisfy the other. In fact, if anything is designed to make you want to PMO, it’s stuffing yourself with food. As explained before - porn diet and safe porn will only put you in the middle of the tug of war and resistance to temptation is so annoying that you will feel relieved visiting your favourite online harem.

The chief evil of substitutes is that they prolong the real problem which is the brainwashing. Do you need a substitute for flu when it’s over? Of course you don’t. By saying, “I need a substitute for PMOing.” What you are really saying is, “I am making a sacrifice.” The depression associated with the Willpower Method is caused by the fact that the PMOer believes he is making a sacrifice. All you will be doing is to substitute one problem for another. There is no pleasure in stuffing yourself with food or cigarettes or alcohol. You will just get fat and miserable and in no time at all you’ll be back on the “drug.”

Casual PMOers find it difficult to dismiss the belief that they are being deprived of their little reward: those who aren’t allowed to go online during a period of time on travel, family event, etc. Some say, “I wouldn’t even know how to unwind if it is not for PMO.” That proves the point. Often the break is taken not because the PMOer needs it or even wants it but because the addict - that is who he or she is - desperately needs to scratch the itch.

Remember the PMO sessions never were genuine rewards. They were equivalent to wearing tight shoes to get the pleasure of taking them off. So if you feel that you must have a little reward, let that be your substitute; while you are working, wear a pair of shoes or an underwear a size too small for you, don’t allow yourself to remove them until you have your break, then experience that wonderful moment of relaxation and satisfaction when you do remove them. Perhaps you feel that would be rather stupid. You are absolutely right. It’s hard to visualize while you are still in the trap, but that is what PMOers do. It’s also hard to visualize that soon you won’t need that little “reward” and you’ll regard your friends who are still in the trap with genuine pity and wonder why they cannot see the point.

However, if you go on kidding yourself that the online harem visit was a genuine reward or that you need a substitute then you will feel deprived and miserable. The chances are that you’ll end up falling into the disgusting trap again. If you need a genuine break, as housewives, teachers, doctors and other workers do, you’ll soon be enjoying that break even more because you won’t have to addict yourself. Remember, you don’t need a substitute. Those pangs are a craving for dopamine and will soon be gone. Let that be your prop for the next few days. Enjoy ridding your body and your mind of slavery and dependence.