03-27 A Social Habit?

A Social Habit?

Health of mind and body are the main reason why we should want to stop but then they always have been. We do not actually need scientific research and knowledge in brain chemistry to tell us that internet porn is addictive and can potentially shatter our lives. These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on the planet and any PMOer knows instantly, from the first session, that the stimulus can go to excess and it can turn poisonous.

The only reason why we ever get involved with internet porn is the PMO’s overlap with their evolutionary brain programming. Porn is available for free and it gets streamed 24 hours a day. No risk and no traces and with very high brain rewards. Porn was once considered as harmless but that was when the images were static and involved a trip to the local store for a VHS tape.

Today it is generally considered even by PMOers themselves to be a supra-stimulus and addiction forming. In the old days, the strong man did not admit he masturbated. Jerk is a derogatory term. In every pub or club bar the majority of men would be proudly wanting to take a woman home and have real sex. Today the position is completely reversed for the internet porn addicts. Today’s man realizes that he is starting to feel that he doesn’t need a woman. This scares him. He bands together online and starts discussing experiences, devise strategies and explore options. Today’s strong man does not want to depend on drugs. With the social revolution all PMOers nowadays are giving serious thought to stopping internet porn and masturbation. Today’s PMOers consider PMO as an useless and harmful activity.

The most significant trend that I have noticed in forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspect of PMOing. The days when a man boasted of having sex and orgasms every day is slowly getting replaced with, “why do I need to be a slave for this porn monster when I know ‘it’ is controlling my wand (and mind)?”

The only reason why people continue to PMO after getting educated is because they have failed to stop or are too frightened to try. There are even talks about no porn, no masturbation and no orgasms - with or without partners. Karezza is discussed widely and people are trying it out. Many aforementioned failures are “fail forwards” and thus somewhat benefiting the people who practice them. Once you start in the no-PMO route you will find your best fit that applies to your life. I strongly encourage devising your own plan on orgasms after understanding and practising the separation of the amative and the propagative parts of sex. I am sure whichever route you take you will see the value of preserving the “seed” by limiting the number of times you flush your brain with chemicals by orgasming. You will then never see porn, sex and orgasms as a pleasure or as a crutch for your emotional ups and downs.

I was reading a Reddit forum by non-PMOers dedicated to quitting not only porn but also masturbation. As I read along I thought. “This is good, I see so many have taken to quitting masturbation and I think that is the right way to quit PMO.” However, I found most of the notes pointing to them to try with the Willpower Method. There was a lot of self-pitying as well. Except a few… almost all were not feeling elated and not having the, “yippee I am free from slavery” attitude. Eventually someone broke down - as I unfortunately expected to happen. And the result was a domino effect. All those other PMOers had been sitting there thinking, “surely I can’t be the only PMOer here.” However, they were “failing forward” albeit with a lot of self-torturing as they shut down their browsers but did not shut down the desire and the need. This method is the reverse as - we shut down the desire and the need first before shutting down the browser screen. As every day more and more PMOers leave the sinking ship, so those left on it become terrified they’ll be the last.