03-24 Just One Peek

Just One Peek

“Just one peek” is a myth you must get out of your mind:

• It is just one peek that gets us started in the first place.
• It is just one peek to tide us over a difficult patch or on a special occasion that defeats most of our attempts to stop.
• It is just one peek that, when PMOers have succeeded in breaking the addiction, sends them back into the trap. Sometimes it is just to confirm that they do not need them any more and that one harem visit does just that.

The after effect of PMO will be horrible and convinces the PMOer he will never become hooked again but he already is. The PMOer feels that something that is making him or her so miserable and guilty should have not made him or her do it yet they did.

It is the thought of that ‘one special PMO’ session that often prevents users from stopping. The one after your long conference trip or the one after your hard day at work or your fight with kids or after an incident where your partner rejects you for sex. Get it firmly in your mind there is no such thing as “just one peek.” It is a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless you break it. It is the myth about the odd, special occasion that keeps PMOers moping about it when they stop. Get into the habit of never seeing the “no big deal” (NBD¹) session - it is a fantasy. Whenever you think about porn or PMO, see a whole filthy lifetime of spending a lot of time behind a screen just for the privilege of destroying yourself mentally and physically, a lifetime of slavery, a lifetime of hopelessness. It is not a crime if your erections are unreliable. But it is when you could be happier in the long term but choose to sacrifice that for a short term ‘pleasure’.

It is OK that we can’t always come up with ‘something to do’ for the void and it is not realistically possible to do that every time and for our entire life. Yes, we can plan for most of them, but sometimes void happens. Good times and bad times also happen, irrespective of your PMO anyway. But get it clearly into your mind: the PMO isn’t it. You are stuck with either a lifetime of misery or none at all. You wouldn’t dream of taking cyanide because you liked the taste of almonds, so stop punishing yourself with the thought of the occasional “no big deal” PMO. Ask a PMOer with issues, “if you had the opportunity to go back to the time before you became hooked, would you have become a PMOer?” The answer is inevitably, “you have got to be joking!” Yet every PMOer has that choice every day of his life. Why doesn’t he opt for it? The answer is fear. The fear that he cannot stop or that life won’t be the same without it.

Stop kidding yourself! You can do it. Anybody can. It’s ridiculously easy. In order to make it easy to stop masturbating to internet porn there are certain fundamentals to get clear in your mind. We have already dealt with three of them up to now:

1. There is nothing to give up. There are actually only marvellous positive gains to achieve.
2. Never convince yourself of the odd/NBD (no big deal) or JOP² (just one peak) PMO. It doesn’t exist. There is only a lifetime of filth and slavery,
3. There is nothing different about you. Any addicted PMOer can find it easy to stop.

Many PMOers believe that they are confirmed addicts or have addictive personalities. This usually happens if they have read the ‘shocking’³ part of the brain science a little bit too much. I promise you there is no such thing. No one is born with needs to masturbate to video clips before they become hooked on the drug. It is the drug that hooks you and not the nature of your character or personality. It is the effect of addictive supranormal stimuli that makes you believe that you have an addictive personality. However, it is essential that you remove this belief because if you believe that you are dependent on internet porn, you will be. Even after the little porn monster inside your body is dead. It is essential to remove all of this brainwashing.