03-14 What Am I Giving Up?

What Am I Giving Up?

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The thing that makes it difficult for us to give up is fear. The fear that we are being deprived of our pleasure or prop. The fear that certain pleasant situations will never be quite the same again. The fear of being unable to cope with stressful situations. In other words, the effect of brainwashing is to delude us into believing that sex and by extension orgasm, is a must for all human beings. Or that there is something inherent in Internet porn that we need and that when we stop PMOing we will be self-denying ourselves and there will be a void.

These bodies of ours are the most sophisticated objects on this planet. Whether you believe in a creator, a process of natural selection or a combination of both, whatever being or system devised these bodies of ours, it is a thousand times more effective than man! Man cannot create the smallest living cell, let alone the miracle of eyesight, reproduction, our circulatory system or our brains. We don’t have our systems upgraded yet to properly assess the supranormal stimulus such as rich high density food or high speed internet novelty porn with multiple active windows.

If the creator or process had intended us to handle novelty triggering stimuli, we would have been provided with some other brain reward circuits. Our bodies are, in fact, provided with fail-safe warning devices and we ignore these at our peril. Excessive edging results in body pain, irritation, and inflammation. In women, excessive flooding of dopamine and stress enzymes such as prostaglandin-E2 can cause difficulty to orgasm and PME.

There Is Nothing To Give Up

The beautiful truth is - there is nothing to give up. Once you purge that little monster from your body and the brainwashing (the big monster) from your mind, you will neither want to masturbate often nor need internet porn for it. PMO destroys your sense of self-control. I don’t think PMOers are self-destructive to continue even after knowing the ill-effects of internet porn. They clearly don’t have suicidal tendencies. They don’t enjoy this slavery themselves. Many of them do it in spite of the fact that they know it causes self-sabotage. You see there must be many unknowns and the medical community has no idea of even questioning and determining someone as an internet porn addict yet. So a lot of reported symptoms are wrongly tagged under other causes. It is not that PMOers are generally stupid people; it is just that they are miserable without the PMO. They are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. They either have to abstain and be miserable because they cannot PMO or be miserable because they are destroying themselves through PMO and feel guilty and despise themselves for it. When they feel that lower back pain or get PIED, their minds are torn between accepting responsibility and looking the other way.

The problem I have is to make a convincing point as I’d have done for, let us say… smokers? All of us have seen smokers who develop excuses to sneak off for a crafty puff. It is easy to see the true addiction in action. Addicts do not do it because they enjoy it. They do it because they are miserable without it.

Because many of us started out our first sexual experience that ended in an orgasm and we acquired the belief that we cannot enjoy sex without an orgasm. And for men, porn is sold as an aid towards sex, sometimes even as an education to be confident during the act of sex. It used to be static, but now we have supranormal internet porn. But this is nonsense. Internet porn takes away your confidence.

Women And Porn

The greatest evidence of the fear that porn instils is in its effect on women. Practically all women are fastidious about their personal appearance. They wouldn’t dream of appearing at a social function not immaculately turned out and smelling beautiful. So why would they fall for internet porn? The traps were set as either a control trap (I can give up when I want) or an educational trap, or a freedom trap (I am entitled). Feminism has freed women from all the bad patriarchal rules of the past but they still need to be aware of supranormal stimulus such as internet porn.

Porn and internet porn does not help your sex life; it destroys it totally. Having to hide your internet footprints, trying to delete your history, fearing accidental exposure to your boyfriend or kids, body pains, doubtful symptoms, fighting self doubts, arguing with yourself about your responsibilities in the ill effects of your addiction… well, why do you want to put yourself in such a bad situation?

Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous positive gains to be had. When PMOers contemplate quitting they tend to concentrate on health and virility. These are obviously valid and important issues but I personally believe the greatest gains from stopping are psychological:

1. The return of your confidence and courage.
2. Freedom from the slavery.
3. Not to have to go through life suffering the awful black shadows at the back of your mind, knowing you are being despised by half of the population and, worst of all, despising yourself.

Not only is life better as a non-PMOer but it is infinitely more enjoyable. I do not only mean you will be healthier. I mean you will be happier and enjoy life far more. The marvellous gains from being a non-PMOer are discussed in the next few chapters. Some PMOers find it difficult to appreciate the concept of the ‘void’ and the following analogy may assist you.

Void, the Void, the Beautiful Void!

Imagine having a cold sore on your face. I’ve got this marvellous ointment. I say to you, “try this stuff.” You rub the ointment on and the sore disappears immediately. A week later it reappears. You ask, “do you have any more of that ointment?” I say, “sure, keep the tube. You might need it again.” You apply the ointment once again. Hey presto, the sore disappears again. But every time the sore returns, it gets larger and more painful and the interval gets shorter and shorter. Eventually the sore covers your whole face and is excruciatingly painful. It is now returning every half hour. You know that the ointment will remove it temporarily, but you are very worried. Will the sore eventually spread over your whole body? Will the interval disappear completely? You go to your doctor. He can’t cure it. You try other things but nothing helps except this magical ointment.

By now you are completely dependent on the ointment. You never go out without ensuring that you have a tube of the ointment with you. If you go abroad, you make sure that you take several tubes with you. Now, in addition to your worries about your health, I’m charging you $100 per tube. You have no choice but to pay.

You then read in the medical column of your newspaper that this isn’t happening just to you; many other people have been suffering from the same problem. In fact, pharmacists have discovered that the ointment doesn’t actually cure the sore. All that it does is to take the sore beneath the surface of the skin. It is the ointment that has caused the sore to grow. All you have to do to get rid of the sore is to stop using the ointment. The sore will eventually disappear in due course.

Would you continue to use the ointment? Would it take willpower not to use the ointment? If you didn’t believe the medical article, there might be a few days of apprehension, but once you realized that the sore was beginning to get better, the need or desire to use the ointment would go, Would you be miserable? Of course you wouldn’t. You had an awful problem which you thought was insoluble. Now you’ve found the solution. Even if it took a year for that sore to disappear completely, each day, as it improved, you’d think. “isn’t it marvellous? I’m not going to die!” This was the magic that happened to me on my final PMO day. Let me make one point quite clear in the analogy of the sore and the ointment.

The sore isn’t lung cancer, or arterial sclerosis, or emphysema, or angina, or chronic asthma, or bronchitis, or coronary heart disease. They are all in addition to the sore. It isn’t the body pains, lack of normal lust, flagging arousal, fading penetration, the wasted time spent on lifeless two dimensional images, the times when we felt infringed of our entitlement because we are not allowed to PMO. It isn’t the lifetime of being despised by other people who caught you or, worst of all, despising yourself. These are all in addition to the sore.

The sore is what makes us close our minds to all these things. It’s that panic feeling of, “I want a fix.” Non-PMOers don’t suffer from that feeling. The worst thing we ever suffer from is fear, and the greatest gain you will receive is to be rid of that fear. It was as if a great mist had suddenly lifted from my mind. I could see so clearly that that panic feeling of wanting a porn fix wasn’t some sort of weakness in me or some magic quality of internet porn. It was caused by the first PMO session; and each subsequent one - far from relieving the feeling, it was actually causing it.

At the same time I could see all these other “happy” PMOers - the ones who are blinded by their cunning little porn monsters - were going through the same nightmare that I was. Not as bad as mine yet all putting up phony arguments to try to justify their stupidity.

IT’S SO NICE TO BE FREE!