The Sinister Trap
Internet porn is the most subtle, sinister trap that man and nature have combined to devise. What gets us into it in the first place? The free samples from the professionals and the amateurs (celebrities and commons) who like to share. Some of us are even warned earlier that it’s an awful and disgusting habit with short term pleasures and long term costs but we cannot believe that they are not enjoying it. One of the many pathetic aspects of PMO (after knowing its dangers) is how hard we have to work in order to become hooked.
It is the only trap in nature which has does not require a lot of hard work to set up. The thing that springs the trap is not that all porn clips feature young, high quality, sexy models; it’s that most of the thumbnails on any porn web page are ugly looking, unattractive, amateurish, home-made clips of unknown models. If the first timer’s first look at a tube page was only filled with angelic beauties, professional models and high quality then the alarm bells would ring. And as intelligent human beings, we could then understand why half the adult population was systematically addicted to watching something that is cutting down their very same potential to do what they are viewing. In many known and yet unknown ways porn cuts down sexual performance and the feeling of satisfaction.
But because that first “peek” has “stains and holes,” a mishmash of low quality clips of not-so-hot models, our young minds are reassured that we will never become hooked, and we think that because we are not enjoying them we can stop whenever we want to. It is the only drug in nature that prevents you from achieving your aim. Our curiosity brings us to its door steps. You dare not even click on all of the thumbnails because some of them will make you feel sick and throw up! If you were to accidentally click on an “I-did-not-see-that” clip - all you want to do is get away from the site and close your laptop.
With women, the aim is to be the sophisticated modern young lady. We have all seen them acting up and looking absolutely ridiculous. By the time the boys have learnt to look tough and the girls have learnt to look sophisticated, they wish they had never started in the first place. I wonder whether women ever look sophisticated when they discuss the top 10 porn sites, or whether this is a figment of our imaginations created by internet porn companies.
We then spend the rest of our lives trying to explain to ourselves why we do it, telling our children not to get caught and, at odd times, trying to escape ourselves. The trap is so designed that we try to stop only when we have an “incident” that touch us to the quick of the flesh, whether it be in the bed, loss of a career or relationship, shortage of drive or just plain being made to feel like a leper. As soon as we stop, we have more stress (the fearful withdrawal pangs of brain chemicals) and the thing that we rely on to relieve stress (our old prop, porn and PMO) we now must do without. Internet porn is powerful imagery at high speed making it a high fructose corn syrup… sorry, high density supernormal stimulant.
After a few days of torture we decide that we have picked the wrong time to quit. We must wait for a period without stress, and as soon as that arrives the reason for stopping vanishes. Of course, that period will never arrive because, in the first place, we think that our lives tend to become more and more stressful. As we leave the protection of our parents the natural process is jobs, setting up home, mortgages, babies, more responsible jobs, a bigger house, more babies etc. etc. This is also an illusion.
The truth is that the most stressful periods for any creature are early childhood and adolescence. We tend to confuse responsibility with stress. A PMOer’s life - like a drug addict - automatically becomes more stressful because PMO does not relax you or relieve stress, as some try to make you believe. Just the reverse: it actually causes you to become more nervous and stressed. Internet porn is as fake in its promises for pleasure and crutch as its actors are. If you had never learned any life skills to cope the stress and strains of day to day life you are not going to get any better with this fake and disgusting crutch. Worse you are going to add more bales of straw on the old camel’s back.
Even those users who kick the habit (most do, one or more times during their lives) can lead perfectly happy lives yet suddenly become hooked again. The whole business of PMO is like wandering into a giant maze. As soon as we enter the maze our minds become misted and clouded, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to escape. Many of us eventually do, only to find that we get trapped again at a later date. I spent thirty-three years trying to escape from that maze. Like all PMOers, I couldn’t understand it. However, due to a combination of unusual circumstances, none of which reflect any credit on me, I wanted to know why previously it had been so desperately difficult to stop and yet, when I finally did, it was not only easy but enjoyable.
Since stopping PMO my hobby has been to resolve the many conundrums associated with porn. It is a complex and fascinating puzzle and - like a Rubik’s Cube - practically impossible to solve. However, like all complicated puzzles, if you know the solution, it is easy! I have the solution to stopping porn easily. I will lead you out of the maze and ensure that you never wander into it again. All you have to do is follow the instructions. If you take a wrong turn, the rest of the instructions will be pointless. Let me emphasize that anybody can find it easy to stop but first we need to establish the facts. No, I do not mean the scare facts. I know you are already aware of them. There is already enough information on the evils of PMO. If that was going to stop you, you would already have stopped. I mean, why do we find it difficult to stop? In order to answer this question we need to know the real reason why we are still doing PMO.