03-02 The Easy Method

The Easy Method

The object of this book is to get you into the frame of mind in which, instead of the normal method of stopping whereby you start off with the feeling that you are climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived, you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if you had been cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever had to use any porn in the first place. You will look at your dorm mate PMOer with pity as opposed to envy.

Provided that you are not a non-PMOer (who had never got addicted) or an ex-PMOer (who had quit or is in the fasting days of the porn-diet), it is essential to not quit until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction. Later I shall be explaining that porn do absolutely nothing for you at all. In fact, one of the many conundrums about internet porn is that when we are actually masturbating to a porn clip, we look at it and wonder why we are doing it. It is only when we have been deprived that the craving for PMO becomes precious.

However, let us accept that, whether you like it or not, you believe you are hooked. When you believe you are hooked, you can never be completely relaxed or concentrate properly unless you are using PMO. So do not attempt to stop PMO before you have finished the whole book. This instruction to continue to masturbate using porn until you have completed the book has caused me more frustration than any other. As you read further your desire to masturbate to porn will gradually be reduced. Do not go off half-cocked; this could be fatal. Remember, all you have to do is to follow the instructions in the right order. When I first started writing on forums many of the readers also stopped purely because I had done it. They thought, “if he can do it, anybody can.”

Over the years, I managed to persuade the ones that hadn’t stopped to realize just how nice it is to be free! I gave my hackbook for free upon request. I worked on the basis that, even if it were the most boring book ever written, they would still read it, if only because it had been written by an ex-PMOer. I was surprised and hurt to learn that,they hadn’t bothered to finish the book.

I was hurt at the time but I had overlooked the dreadful fear that this slavery to the “dopamine surge” instils in the addict. I now realize that many PMOers don’t finish the book because they feel they have got to give up something that is their pleasure and crutch when they quit. Some deliberately read only one line a day in order to postpone the evil day. Look at it this way: what have you got to lose? If you don’t stop at the end of the book, you are no worse off than you are now. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE AND SO MUCH TO GAIN! AND SO MUCH MORE TO AVOID !!! A Pascal’s Wage¹?

Incidentally, if you have not PMOed for a few days or weeks but are not sure whether you are a PMOer, an ex-PMOer or a non-PMOer, then don’t use porn to masturbate while you read. In fact, you are already a non-PMOer. All we’ve now got to do is to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book you’ll be a happy non-PMOer.

Basically this method is the complete opposite of the normal method of trying to stop. The normal method is to list the considerable disadvantages of PMO and say, “if only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire to masturbate to porn will go. I can then enjoy life again, free of slavery to the tube.” This is the logical way to go about it, and thousands of PMOer are stopping every day using variations of this method. However, it is very difficult to succeed using this method for the following reasons:

1. Stopping PMO is not the real problem. Every time you finish your ‘deed’ you stop using it. You may have powerful reasons on day one of your once-in-four porn diet to say, “I do not want to PMO or even masturbate any more” - all PMOers have, every day of their lives, and the reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, day ten or day ten thousand, when in a weak moment, an inebriated moment or even a strong moment you have one ‘peek’ and because it is partly akin to drug addiction you then want another, and suddenly you are a masturbator again.
2. The health scares should stop us. Our rational minds say: “Stop doing it. You are a fool,” but in fact they make it harder. We masturbate, for example, when we are nervous. Tell PMOers that it is destroying their virility, and the first thing they will do is to find something to rush their dopamine - a cigarette, alcohol or even fire up the browser and search for porn.
3. All reasons for stopping actually make it harder for two other reasons. First, they create a SOS sense of sacrifice. We are always being forced to give up our little friend or prop or vice or pleasure, whichever way the PMOer sees it. Secondly, they create a ‘blind’. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is: why do we want or need to do it?

The EasyPeasy Method is basically this: initially to forget the reasons we’d like to stop, to face the problem and to ask ourselves the following questions:

1. What is it doing for me?
2. Do I actually enjoy it?
3. Do I really need to go through life using free internet porn or even paying through the nose just to sabotage my mind and body?

The beautiful truth is that porn – streaming, static or whatever - does absolutely nothing for you at all. Let me make it quite clear; I do not mean that the disadvantages of being a PMOer outweigh the advantages. All PMOers know from the many published studies about high speed internet porn addiction, forum messages, blog articles in YBOP and similar sites. I mean there are not any advantages from internet porn. The only advantage it ever had was the ‘educational’ aspect and guess what, nowadays the kind of education that it is offering is highly disputable for their contribution to real life intimacy. Most PMOers find it necessary to rationalize why they PMO but the reasons they come up are all fallacies and illusions.

The first thing we are going to do is to remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you will realize that there is nothing to give up. Not only is there nothing to give up but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer and well being and happiness are only two of these gains. Once the illusion that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed, once you realize that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so, once the feeling of being deprived or of missing out are eradicated, then we can go back to reconsider the health and happiness - and the dozens of other reasons for stopping. These realizations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire to enjoy the whole of your life free from the slavery of the porn habit.